Sunday, March 22, 2009

Letting go.


Letting a friendship die is one of the hardest, most painful decisions we are sometimes faced with. Even when it was only barely hanging on, cutting away that last string that kept you connected is so painful; especially when the person is someone you once truly loved and cared for. A friendship that began almost 9 years ago has now come to its 'official' end. I have reached a point in life where I finally have the courage and strength to let go of the destructive relationships that have been existing in my life. It has taken a long time to fully sever all of the emotional attachment I had to the friendship, but I know that it was necessary in order for me to continue to live happily and grow in the right direction. Its easy to hang on to painful relationships and can take a long time before you realize the extent of the damage it has caused.

I have never been one of those people who has 'tons of friends'. Rather, I have maintained a few, very close friendships with people I truly love and care about. To me, friendship is about the giving and receiving of love, trust, respect, loyalty and caring. I am so thankful for the people in my life that I can truly count on when I am in need of comfort, advice and company. I would do anything for them.

But when a friendship begins to fade into a one-sided relationship; it is truly painful. It's hard to know why someone you love so much can just stop caring. And it has been something that has taken me a long time to truly accept.

In the end I feel both sadness and relief. I know that people do grow and change. Perhaps in the future we can have a new beginning.

3 comments:

alisonml said...

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Teresa said...

Pain fades into a weird, old memory. I hope by then you have plenty of happy new ones surrounding you.

Saulster said...

I'm really proud of you. It's not an easy step, but like you said... people can change. If not, you'll always know that you made the right choice and did what was best for yourself.

I think you've been making a lot of good choices for yourself lately. :)

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